I am in love with this process, called Nonviolent Communication (NVC). Practicing it is the greatest improvement in the quality of my life.
The idea that I can be honest without criticising gives me much bigger freedom than I have ever imagined having, before I met NVC.
Being able to guess the other person’s possible feelings and needs reduces the number of “idiots” around me to zero.
I am not saying that empathic guesses are my first thoughts all the time, but sooner or later I will get there.So, I experience much more freedom and safety.
I discovered this approach in 1996. Ever since I have been committed to use it in every aspect of my life: handling conflicts in my family in an honest and loving way, working more effectively and in a compassionate manner, taking full responsibility for my actions and thoughts, taking meaningful actions and contributing to the best of my ability to social change.
Once, when I felt really lonely, I asked myself: who are the people or group of people to whom I am really committed to connect? The answer I found in my heart is, beside my biological family, those who are well experienced in practicing empathic presence and honesty without criticism. We can call this the practice of Nonviolent Communication. It is a special experience to have real conflicts with such people, because through them, I can understand myself and the other person on a much deeper level. And somehow, after reconnection there is learning and celebration.
In 1999, I quit my business job and started my carrier as an NVC trainer. In 2000, I became an authorized trainer of the International Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC). I worked closely with Marshall Rosenberg, the founder of CNVC, for 5 years, on a couple of hundred trainings.
Since 2000, I have been serving as Eastern European project coordinator of CNVC. In this role, my task is to support the creation and strengthening of Eastern European NVC teams and to train the local NVC trainers. The projects are not coordinated by CNVC anymore, but my heart is still in sharing NVC in this region.
After serving more than 40, 9 days International Intensive Training (IIT), led by Marshall Rosenberg, I can not tell how grateful I am for the possibility to learn this process from him.
About Éva Rambala:
- Vast experience: over the last 20 years, Eva has delivered 2.500+ workshop days of Nonviolent Communication training in 35+ countries. Prior to her career as a trainer, Eva acquired 10 years of business experience.
- Flexibility: In addition to large and small business clients, Eva has clients in the world of education (from kindergartens to universities), NGOs, government services (hospitals, prisons and orphanages), and in the Civil society (spiritual communities).
- Recognised authority: Eva began her NVC career by working closely with Marshall Rosenberg, the inventor of this method, for five consecutive years. She has gone on to give popular “train the trainer” programs.
2009 European University Center for Peace Studies,
Master of Arts in Peace and Conflict Studies,
1999 Certified trainer of the International Center for Nonviolent Communication;
1995 Budapest Business School, Faculty of Pedagogy;
1987 Budapest Business School, Faculty of Commerce;
1999 to date Certified trainer with the Center for Nonviolent Communication (www.cnvc.org)
Eastern European Coordinator (since 2002);
1994 – 2000 Sämling Ltd, Department leader;
1989 – 1994 Irodakultura Studio, Project manager.
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